Guest Post from new INspiration Nation Blogger Taraleigh Weathers
If You Are Brave Enough to Be Your True Authentic Self (Quirks and All) People Will Still Like You (Quirks and All)
…and if they don’t, they never really liked you
Hey ladies! I’m Taraleigh from Hot Healthy Love and I am so honored to be a part of INspiration Nation as your Love Blogger. I am going to start off by sharing that I love you. I love you for who you are quirks and all. I also love myself for who I am quirks and all…and I’ve got a lot of quirks. For example, when I go to weddings I start dancing like Elaine from Seinfeld and I don’t even realize it. I was a professional dancer and somehow when I stop paying attention that is my go to move. I am really as happy as I seem. When I go to a restaurant that serves soup I always ask for a combination of the soups they offer even if it doesn’t really work. When I walk down the street I sometimes break out in dance. When I cook, food goes everywhere. I sometimes sleep in my clothes including sequins, tights and sometimes even my boots. When I get dressed I put on many outfits and usually end up wearing the first one I put on. I forget to wear deodorant sometimes and smell super saucy. The reason I am sharing all my quirkiness with you is that I own the fact that those quirks are part of who I am and if you love me…then you love me. If you don’t, that’s ok. Nothing personal.
When I was a young lady I was totally in love with this guy that didn’t love me back the same way. I would do anything for this guy to love me back. That meant I would do things that weren’t true to my authentic self because he obviously didn’t love the real me. I thought if I could create a version of myself he would love I thought, “ok, that will work.” I remember one night, canceling plans with friends because this guy told me we were going to hang out. I waited by the phone all night waiting for it to ring and it never did. I was a bad friend to my friends by canceling on them last minute because I was hoping that maybe just maybe this guy would call me and he would love me finally. I did this to myself over and over again. I would wear clothes I thought he would like. I would act in a way I thought he would like. The one thing I was forgetting…I wasn’t doing things in a way that I would like. It’s not personal that he didn’t love me and that’s ok, but I didn’t realize that at the time.
My next serious relationship I didn’t do much better. It was a crazy, dramatic, abusive relationship. This guy hated all of my quirks even though he pretended to like them at first. He told me I lived in a world of fairies and pixie dust. Looking back at it now, I don’t see that as an insult, but I totally did then. I tried to suppress my quirkiness to make him happy. Guess what? It didn’t work and I wasn’t happy. He would say things like, “No one will ever love you the way I do” and “You could never be with someone as smart or good looking as me,” and for some reason I believed it. Then one day it clicked. I realized I would rather be alone and that I could love myself way more than he was loving me. So I left.
Eventually I realized one of the keys to finding love. I had to love myself, quirks and all. My happiness didn’t depend on anyone else’s. My happiness depended on me. How freeing is that? When you are YOU in all of your crazy freaky beautiful glory then when you meet someone, he is going to love you for you. You also don’t feel like you have to be in a relationship to be happy which allows you to choose to be with someone because you want to be around them. So I challenge you ladies. Be you in all of your glory and you will find someone who loves you for your, quirks and all!
Please join Taraleigh for a live tele-series starting June 4th called “10 Days of Hot Healthy Men.” Each night a different hot healthy man will be speaking live on a variety of topics including, “How to Get That Forever Promise From That Scared to Commit Man Without Nagging, Bribing or Pushing Him Away,” “10 Keys to Attract a Man That Loves the Real You“, “How to Have a Hot Healthy Libido Naturally” and so much more. Can’t make the calls, don’t worry. Each call will be recorded and emailed to you the next day. Here’s the exciting part. If you sign up and let us know you heard about the program from Live. Breathe. Grow. you can “bring” a friend with you. Click HERE to sign up and to see who the hot healthy men are!!